Life Lessons in Less than a Year

This blog is about what I experienced in the past months with friends. How can one concept of problem be experienced by a circle of friends in different situations and in such a short span of time? Is it a curse? A trend? Is it our fate? Who knows?

You know what they say: 

"Experience is the best teacher."

"A Cheater is always a cheater."

and

"Trust takes a lifetime to build but only seconds to destroy."

I'd agree with two of them there but would strongly object with one and will do my best for the rest of my life to prove that THAT one quote above is not entirely applicable to everyone.

After experiencing such pain of being left by the person she thought she'd spend forever with, my friend realized that a broken heart hurts 10,000x more than what we read in quotes when you've actually experienced it. That's her first heartbreak from a first love she thought would be the last.


It was THE almost perfect (since there's no perfect) relationship anyone could have. Almost 6years in a relationship they thought would last forever, or SHE thought. But in a snap it was all gone. The guy found someone else from his workplace, easy as that. She's left single, trust destroyed in seconds after finding out about the Other girl, future plans crushed to pieces, and worst, her heart broken.

Funny how people who can love with a pure heart be the ones who actually get their hearts broken. Shame on those people who hurt them. SHAME ON YOU. 

SHAME ON ME.

I say that because I myself have done that. Hurt people I love. How can I love them if I hurt them? It's unreasonable to say you love a person with all your heart but you're able to cause him/her the greatest pain he/she thought you'd never do. These people trusted you with the most fragile thing they could ever entrust with anyone and all you do is hurt them. What a SHAME. 

How bout listening to the other side of the story? Lack of time? Not happy anymore? Don't know why it happened? BULLSHIT. The other side doesn't matter with reasons like that.

The people who hurt you have one thing in common: PRIDE. One more thing: COWARDICE. Need I say more? Guess I've said enough. I won't meddle deeper into it.

Another friend of mine who's experienced being the "bad" guy learned that the hardest part in admitting you've done wrong and paying for the hurt you caused the person you love is actually REALIZING how much damage you've caused and how DETERMINED you are to win back the trust you once had so whole.

It may never be the same again, but the faith in making it right is the next best thing. This can only be done through compromise. Both parties should work on it. But if only one of you is willing. Then it's probably time to let go.    

How bout those people who just don't get it? Those who enjoy making their life complicated? Can you blame your heart from falling for a person just because he's the one closest to you? What will you do to those people willing to love you without complications? Can't you just learn from other people's experience? 

I guess it's the adrenalin rush that excites people to give in to temptations. Not knowing how much consequences they're putting themselves into.

C'est La Vie!